We've enlisted the stunning Mistress Aradia, a California-based pro Domina and adult star with an evil mind, curvaceous 6-foot frame and jaw-dropping costume collection to help explain the secrets of love, passion and how to keep someone on the hook for as long as you want them. 

Communicate Beforehand: What Are the Rules of Engagement?

Whether you're planning a kinky couple of hours together or a potential new relationship, it's important to sit down and hash out the particulars. Or at least try.

Yeah, it's scary to be forthright about what you want... and true, you should beware the overly regimented approach ("After going out eight times, I'll meet your parents...after six months, we will move in...after one year, it's engagement or adios...and should we wed, I expect to have two children, both male, both athletic.") That's just downright scary.

But you can talk about what you would want from the ideal relationship. And what you'd want from a situation. BDSM* people often lay down the guidelines before they ever walk into a dungeon together... sometimes when they've just met.

"The fact that they are speaking about it and researching the idea will create a bond to continue the journey," says Mistress Aradia.

And while it's definitely not an easy thing to do, it bodes well for any kind of relationship: "Growth begins when two people find the confidence to be open enough to each other's desires. Communication is where it all starts, and can even offer an erotic foreplay beforehand," the Mistress adds.